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Focus on Your Relationship to be a Better Parent

Parents know that it can be tough to make time for our relationship. Children are often put first and this makes our marriage or relationship take a back seat, but tending to your relationship will actually make you a better parent and a happier person. If you and your partner are not satisfied and happy with one another, this will surely carry over to your family life. Your children need a wonderful example of a healthy relationship, so make your marriage or relationship a priority.

Do something romantic daily.

Letting your partner know just how special he or she is to you does not have to take too much time or effort, but the effects can be huge. You can do little things just to show how much you love one another. I leave the house before my fiancé wakes up, so I make sure to give him plenty of kisses in the morning before I leave. He says that it’s the best part of his day.

Go on a romantic getaway weekend at least once a year.

husband and wife together

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Getting away for the day, let alone a whole weekend can be tough, but it is easier if you plan ahead. We surprise each other with a weekend getaway for just the two of us on our birthdays. For example, when it is my fiancé’s birthday, I plan everything. I book the hotel, pick the destination and events, and plan the babysitter. He does the same for me when it is my birthday. It’s consistent and there is little need to plan other than the specifics of the weekend because we both know that the weekends around our birthday are reserved for our getaways.

Make regular time for just the two of you.

Be sure to make regular time for you and your partner to spend alone, even if it’s just for a few minutes. Date nights are optimal, but sometimes, they can be hard to come by. We have date nights maybe once a month and, although it recharges our relationship, we wish we could have more. In between our monthly date nights, we take time alone, just the two of us, after our daughter has gone to bed. We use this time to talk and reconnect. While it might not always be the most romantic few minutes, it’s just enough to keep us satisfied.

Have a joint interest or hobby.

Finding a hobby or other interest that you enjoy doing with your partner is a win-win situation. You get to spend time doing something you like with someone you love. My fiancé and I focus on health and fitness. We both have goals to eat healthy and get in shape. This has brought us closer together because we have a common goal and can work on it together. It also benefits our daughter as she is learning healthy eating and exercise habits. We can lean on each other for support and celebrate when we reach our goals.

The bottom line is that you need to focus on your children and on your relationship. You make the time for the things that are most important in your life. Your children and your spouse or partner are your family. Put family first and let the rest fall into place.

About the Author

A native of Los Angeles, California, Jennifer E. Lee earned a Bachelor of Arts in Journalism from California State University and a Master of Arts in English from Northern Arizona University. She previously taught writing at Pennsylvania State University and currently teaches at Misericordia University in North East Pennsylvania, where she is also the Coordinator of Writing. She started her teaching career in high school English. Her poems, essays, articles, and short stories have appeared in United States and United Kingdom publications.  Jennifer has one four year old daughter and strives to be a better parent every day. Check out her blog at http://parentista.com

2 Responses to “Focus on Your Relationship to be a Better Parent”

  1. Jason Ross says:

    Thanks for the article, Jennifer. Definitely important to remember that my relationship with my wife is as important as the one with my daughter.

  2. Grant says:

    Nice advice. Thanks for sharing!

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