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When our daughter was born, it didn’t take but a few hours for me to start planning out the successful life she would have. I was modestly thinking that she could very well be the first astronaut, turned doctor, turned US President. That’s not too much to ask, right? And while I do hope that she has great success in her life professionally, I think it’s worth describing the girl and woman I hope and pray my daughter becomes. Here are some of my more realistic hopes, expectations, and prayers for her:
I want to do everything in my power for my daughter to have a happy childhood and adult life. I have no plans of truly spoiling her, but I will provide the best childhood I know how. From trips around town, vacations, playing in the park, and so much more, I want to provide her the opportunities to be happy and pursue her American right of happiness. It’s going to be tough as I bet most parents with grown children can attest to, but it’s now one of my top priorities.
I hope to live a life that models the kindness I hope she shows to everyone she meets. Throughout my life I’ve known truly kind people, and people that I just feel sorry for due to how mean they are at most times. While I believe that almost everyone can be kind, living a life where people recognize that you are kind is completely different. I hope that my daughter finds great joy in being kind to others, following the golden rule.
My wife and I are going to do our best, with a lot of help from the Man upstairs, to raise our daughter and any future children to love the Lord. I believe this is the most critical prayer I have for my daughter, as it is the best foundation for the rest of the hopes and expectations I have for her. A Godly woman was a must for me, and I pray that my daughter’s love for the Lord will eventually lead her to fall in love with a Godly man (even though the thought of her dating or being married already scares me).
A great education is a cornerstone of a successful life. I pray that not only will she be great in pre-school, K-5, middle, and high school, but that she will also excel in her collegiate years and beyond. I hope she enjoys learning new things at home, at school, and in her professional career.
I pray that my daughter truly loves helping others. From simple things like holding open doors for people or sharing, to perhaps joining me at the blood drives or spending a good amount of time volunteering. It’s important to put others before you, and I want my daughter to find that joy that comes with helping others.
I bet most parents hope this for their children in one way or another. I’m not saying that I want her to be the CEO of a Fortune 100 company (although I wouldn’t necessarily object), but rather that she will find a career that’s in line with a passion of hers. So if she works for a non-profit, becomes a nurse, or manages a boardroom, I hope she finds a fulfilling line of work to which she can devote her life.
Thinking down the road a couple years, I really hope that she is a great big sister. I have no doubt that she and our future children will have the arguments and such that come with siblinghood, but I pray she and her brother(s) and/or sister(s) can learn to love each other and that she will look out for them and care for them in the way I think an older sibling should.
And thinking way down the road, I pray that she is a fantastic mother. If she gets the “mother” gene that runs in our families, then she’ll do great. Whether she turns out to be like her mom, my mom, my mother-in-law, or any of our grandmothers, then I will be so proud. I pray that she raises her children with some or all of the hopes and prayers I’ve listed out here for her.